The average student is at a rather complicated age while in college. You are independent, have plenty of responsibilities, and are considered an adult. On the other hand, you were just in high school, you’re still figuring out this “grown up” thing, and you probably still live at home or in a dorm. So when it comes to studying abroad, parents might have the initial reaction my mother did: hesitation stemmed from fear.
I know you probably don’t want to hear this, but you’re their baby. The thought of you going away to a different country all on your own is a bit terrifying. Responsibility, maturity, courage, adaptivity: all things that a parent might worry about you lacking. But the truth is that us young adults are more than capable of studying abroad. It’s amazing what college students can do and that is what you need to make your parent understand.
So my advice is simple: be tactful.
The best thing that you can do is keep your parents in the loop. The more they know, the more peace of mind they have. Gather up as much information as you can before dropping the study abroad bomb on them. Show them the brochures or booklets you have, explain the living conditions, and talk about the cost of the program, including what it all covers and what financial aid is available. Don’t be timid about sharing all of the details such as the excursions included, what classes are available at the school abroad, and the safety and help you will have there.
Prove that you did your research.
Prove that you’re going about it responsibly.
Prove that you’re passionate.
Once the ball starts rolling, you’ll begin working with admissions counselors, getting your medical records in order, buying a plane ticket, and all of those pre-departure activities. Tell them about each and every one. Let them be part of this process. I know that sometimes it’s hard to do this with a nervous parent, but trust me, continually hearing about you studying abroad prepares them for when you actually go. Oh, and a little extra tip, DO NOT get annoyed by their questions. They may actually be shedding light on something you should be wondering too. Just be sure to share the answer with them when you find out.
Now what’s the cherry on top of this tactful cake? Constantly reminding your parents of the benefits. Cultural exposure, practice of your second language, international friends and connections, gained independence, a professional edge and a beautiful resume. Make sure that they understand just how worth it studying abroad is and how much it can positively impact your life.
So when you're ready to tell you're parents, keep this in mind: It's just as important for parents to understand the studying abroad process as you.
Rachel Balon is a CEA Alumni Ambassador and a senior at Keystone College. She studied abroad in Galway, Ireland, and was a CEA MOJO during the Fall 2014 semester.